Like many “put together” adults, you may have grown up in a chaotic or isolating household. One parent was inconsistent with their care - a hot and cold approach. The other parent was absent or unavailable in the day to day. It feels like you had to grow up early being the more mature one in the family. There was not much room for your emotions, and it was hard to take up space. You begin to question whether if anyone can handle your emotions or not, becoming self-reliant and distant from connection. Or you question if you can be dependent on anyone for connection without the fear of them leaving. Or maybe both these things are true for you.

Regardless of the circumstances, our early childhood experiences can affect how we show up in our relationships, friendships and work. If emotions are running high, relationships can be strained with the push and pull of chasing and retreating. You may crave having a deep connection, but friendships can be challenging because it’s scary to be vulnerable to the risk of being hurt or rejected. Work feels dissatisfying and draining because of the large workload leading to burnout.

Our culture values the high-functioning adult. While the responsibilities pile up, you push forward trying to make it to the end of the day. After some time, you feel drained going past your limits. Your relationship with others and work turns into a massive strain for you emotionally. The strategy of perfectionism becomes too much of burden to put on yourself. The strategy of people-pleasing gets other people’s needs met, but your needs for care and connection get put on the back burner. You may not even know how you feel after all this time!

You’ve always held it together - now it’s time to heal beneath the surface.

I'm more than willing to explore what is getting in the way of your desire. What I offer is a safe, non-judgmental space where curiosity and compassion take the lead. My approach can be direct, but we will work together to build your wisdom compass. We will work on compassionately building your approach to the emotions that are difficult. You will have the tools needed to connect with your feelings and inner-wisdom.

Whether you're seeking guidance through healing high-functioning trauma or looking to better understand yourself… I am here to support! Let's partner together to explore what aligns with your values and aspirations. The door's open - give me a call or an email anytime!